What does love look like? It has the hands to help
others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see
misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men. That is
what love looks like.
A few months ago, the internet went on a buzz over what
some could consider the most mundane of things; a nail polish. But this was no
ordinary nail polish, but one that would change color when exposed to some of
the most common “Date Rape” drugs out there. Developed by four NCSU male students, this product has been the cause of some ridiculous
controversy online, but more on that and why I explicitly stated that it were
male students later.
Date Rape Drugs are nothing new, as it has been a concern of many women and men
who frequent the club scene for years. The typical scenario is that the drug is
slipped into the person’s drink. They won’t realize they have been drugs till
it’s too late, if they realize it at all. And products to detect these drugs
are nothing new, available in the form of cards and test strips. There are even workshops to teach women how to Drink Safe. So why the controversy? It wasn’t till I had an
interesting conversation with a rather opinionated and pro-feminist woman that
I realized a few things, as her comments were rather interesting.
First off, she told me how the fact that it was men who
developed this, and not women, gave her hope in men today. The reasoning is
quite simple. As men, they are probably not going to have to deal with either
Date Rape Drugs, nor will they probably use Nail Polish. This product in no way
helps them or protects them directly. Sure, they will benefit financially, but
the reality is that this came about as a means to protect women from a very
real and ever present threat.
She actually went even farther as to say that she would
have been saddened if it had been women. That would have meant that probably this
was a response to having dealt with this issue in a personal manner. That is
why many of the current test strips and workshops came about, organized and
developed by a woman who wants to keep other women from suffering the same
situation.
And then she got to the controversy, and that’s when she went
ballistic.
Several feminist websites are going all out against what
is basically a drug testing tool. Their complaint is how this product does not
help out women.
"We should be trying to stop rape, not just individually avoid it."
I could not have made this comment up if I tried. Apparently rape is not something that is individually suffered. Some have
gone as far as to try and discredit the viability of the product; product that
has already been tested and proven. Some have even gone as far as saying that
this product promotes the use of Date Rape Drugs!
And that is when I went ballistic. I agree, with the
logic behind some of the comments stated in these sites; women shouldn’t need
products like these. But the reality is we live in a world where monsters (not willing
to even consider them human) are willing to drug a person. And while we fight
this problem and change the world, we cannot deny the reality of the world. This
product provides an additional tool for women to avoid becoming victims of
these monsters.
Several years ago, I taught an Anti-Rape Self Defense
Class to women. The intention of this class was simply to provide them with the
tools necessary that if the situation arose, they would be a little better
prepared, and hopefully be able to escape. Does this mean that I am promoting
rape? According to these feminist sites, Yes.
I am horrified how they site are using something that
could help out women, and ridicule it, simply to drag hits to their sites. In
this particular case, they seem more interested in creating controversy
(creating movement in their site) than actually helping or recognizing the
benefits of the product, as they haven’t done the same attacks to women
developed workshops for safe drinking or existing products.
We need to view things for what they are, we need to view
any step forward as a step forward. And we seriously need to stop the “if it
doesn’t fix all our problems, let’s not even try it.” As a fellow blogger/writer Alex Yarde once said, “because you can't do everything doesn't
absolve you from doing something."
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