12/15/14

Prove Your Worth Only To Yourself.



You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.
Maya Angelou
As a man in today’s society, you will find yourself having to prove your worth constantly. Be it to your boss, your employees, your significant other, your friends, your family, and to every single stranger you meet, especially in the online community. Let me simply state that if you need to prove your worth, you already forgot your own value.

We live in a society so centered in focusing everything everyone does wrong that is becomes hard to see what anyone does right. Shame and guilt has become the most common tool to keep people in line, even if they never stray from said line. Men are born with the guilt of weakness as every single negative stereotype of masculinity is thrown on our shoulders. Having to prove they are better than their brothers, we need to prove ourselves with a constant pissing contest among ourselves. To women, we are constantly forced to prove ourselves worthy, as so many before us laid the groundwork for a life of shaming.

Here’s a little secret to all of you. You don’t need to play that game. Anyone who needs you to prove your worth is not really looking to see your worth.  They are really interested in proving their own preconceptions right. The fact that they make you feel you need to prove yourself to them, says a lot about them. They are looking to judge you based on their own weaknesses, not yours.

Self-worth doesn’t come from validation from others; it comes from validation from yourself, from realizing you are worthy. When you send your time in hopes to being accepted, you lose yourself in the process. Realize you have to prove yourself to yourself, and nobody else. Your self-worth has nothing to do with what others think of you, but what you think of yourself. When you feel the need to prove your worth, you already forgot your value. With that in mind, why would you need to prove yourself to anyone?

If you believe in yourself, if you believe you are worthy, it should reflect in everything you do. That means anyone who wants to see your worth would only need to look at who you are and what you do. There shouldn’t be a need to show it or sell yourself or prove your actions. They should be evident enough for anyone to see them.